Stressed Out

Dealing with the stress.

This article was published on January 20, 2010.
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Lately I've been really stressed out with work. The last two weeks have been the busiest I can recall. Last week was especially strenuous, with over ten business meetings and Grant in New York for the week to work with us here. I'm trying to maintain a balanced life, but it's difficult right before a release, and some Carbonmade stuff is getting close. Here's what I've been doing to try and stay sane.

Stress

Eating Healthier

I've never been a habitually unhealthy eater, but I sometimes have given in to temptation and convenience. Not eating healthy is one of the worst things you can do if you're trying to maintain your energy levels. If you eat too many fatty foods, carbohydrates and sugars, the quick energy boost you get will quickly fade and you'll be worse off than before. You've got to maintain a balanced diet of fruits, vegetables, and healthy proteins. Easier said than done.

For most of the month of January I've eaten vegetarian, with the occasional piece of chicken or turkey. It's not hard for me to eat vegetarian in my office, as Dave, Sahadeva, Matt, Shawn, Karen, and most everybody in our office shies away from meat. What's hard has been making sure I get enough protein, so I've been trying to eat a decent amount of tofu and I've been nibbling on healthy protein bars after the gym.

Working Out

This past week I only made it to the gym twice, but the week before I was able to escape from the office around six times. Going to the gym has always helped me reduce stress and kept my body in tune. I sleep better at night. I feel better about how I look. Best of all, it's one of the only places where I don't think about work at all.

About half the times I go to the gym it'll be for a squash game followed by some light lifting. The others times I'm either running on the treadmill or using the elliptical machine. I'm not really into lifting weights — it bores me and I don't want to bulk up — so I prefer to do some core exercises after the cardio. I follow that up with a five to ten minute steam and a cold shower. Nothing is more relaxing than the steam room.

No Alcohol During January

A group of six us (Mike, Phineas, Naveen, and others) put alcohol on hold for the month of January. The main reason was that my friend Jake has to be on medication for three weeks and can't drink alcohol because of his prescription. We joined him as a gesture of support. Well, that decision has turned out to add to my stress levels, but overall it's been better for me.

I've never been a huge drinker, but typically I'd drink a couple of beers about four times a week — and more heavily on the weekends. Not having a drink has added to my stress level in some respects, as it's hard getting used to being at a bar or a music show with everyone around you drinking but sticking to water yourself. Overall, though, I've been sleeping better at night, getting just about eight hours, which I need. Also, I'm waking up more refreshed and ready to go. Both sleeping more and waking up fresh all the time are welcome changes.

Unplugging

One thing I need to work on is unplugging myself now and then. Having an iPhone the last few years hasn't helped. At least before then I wasn't constantly bombarded with e-mails and only a touch away from an Internet browser. Who really wants push notifications incessantly?

The advantages of unplugging once in a while are obvious, but for me it's very difficult to do because I handle all the e-mail that Carbonmade receives, and part of our pledge is to deliver the best and quickest customer service we can. However, it's been nearly a year since I've taken any kind of vacation. I've got to figure out some sort of compromise to relax, but there isn't a lot I can do until we hire more people to help out. That's running a startup for you.

Comments

naveen about 6 months ago

i used to be so good about all of these points–probably the healthiest i've ever been in life. now, i'm just working a lot and finding that i'm using that as an excuse to drop these models

they all work together (you can't just pick and choose)

it's time to get back into it

2010!

Wesley Verhoeve about 6 months ago

just last night I decided to join you guys for the rest of January in the ''no drinking'' category. Last night at Pianos for Cross-Pollination I gave away my drink tickets. It took a little getting used to but I felt good physically. I coincidentally also decided to forgo meat after last night's yummy Pianos burger for the rest of the month. Wish I could unplug too for the rest of the month but that's not happening haha

Logo of Spencer Fry Spencer Fry about 6 months ago

Naveen: I certainly have used the stress of the job as an excuse not to take care of myself, but that just means you pay double for it down the road. I'm really trying to be better in 2010 and so far, so good.

Logo of Spencer Fry Spencer Fry about 6 months ago

Wesley: Congrats! Those are two significant changes. Would you still pass on a burger from Ruby's Cafe, though? :)

Ryan Graves about 6 months ago

Spencer-
I've found that I drive myself into the ground, then take a week to recover. It's about a 1 month cycle, 3 weeks on hard core, and 1 week recovery. I've basically excepted it as fact and as the most productive method but at some point, I do hope to bring my own health into the priority scale a bit.
All in due time I guess.
RG

Jeff about 6 months ago

Agreed about the unplugging. The iPhone is super convenient and helpful, but has also made it even harder to ''turn off'' and resist the urge to check email or twitter. Push notifications stay off for me. It's definitely a tricky balance.

Logo of Spencer Fry Spencer Fry about 6 months ago

Ryan: I feel that. I go through cycles myself. I try to keep my recovery days to a minimum. I find that working from home once a week helps with that. I'll take it easier that day. Do my laundry. Clean up the apartment. Things like that.

Logo of Spencer Fry Spencer Fry about 6 months ago

Jeff: I'm too scared to turn the thing off. I'm worried that something bad will happen if I do. Thank God for AT&T's service being so terrible in New York City that it's virtually off every now and again. ;)

Eric Friedman about 6 months ago

Going through this type of checklist is helpful - especially when everything else feels a little out of control. You can use it as something you DO have control over.

Short of some good stress reducing gym sessions there is not much you can do. Concentrate on the light at the end of the tunnel which is the reason you are pushing so hard right now. That is always helpful to me as there is always some goal, whether far off or close, that is the relief from all the overdrive work.

shawn about 6 months ago

Have you tried Pineapple Express? The movie – not the, anyway, nevermind...

Watching movies, drawing, or reading (fiction) take my mind off of things. Also helps to think about family, the world, etc – put things in perspective that way.

But sometimes, you just can't get rid of the stress. That's just how it is. :)

Nihal about 6 months ago

This is EXACTLY the same list I've got going myself. The no drinking thing is both easier and harder than I thought - easier when it comes to traditional weekend boozing, harder when it comes to random, casual drinks with friends/dinner.

So far, it's all been helping out a lot.

Other good relaxers:
- Reading easy online content, like: http://xkcd.com/489/
- Writing - helps me out, even if it reads like garbage later...
- Going out to a meal...by yourself. Or people watching, I suppose it could be called...

Jason about 6 months ago

I call your one month sober challenge, and raise you two more!

Logo of Spencer Fry Spencer Fry about 6 months ago

Eric: Thinking about the end goal is definitely part relaxing and part stressful. If the end goal of any entrepreneur is to make a boat load of money then at the end of the day if you don't make that then you're somehow a failure. So not wanting to be a failure makes you even more stressed out. :) Good thing is... either way there's an end eventually.

Logo of Spencer Fry Spencer Fry about 6 months ago

Shawn: I recently heard from some friend that reading before bed is far far far better for you than watching TV before bed, because it helps your mind wind down. Perhaps I should take that advice into consideration and read more before bed.

*karen about 6 months ago

i'm so unplugged it took me like, 5 days to discover you posted this! i try not to work on work when i'm not at work, and try to stay vigilant about boundaries of work and play. it contains the stress to a set time, and sometimes it's on those off times that you are the most inspired on a work problem, because you're not concentrating on it. you need downtime to balance the uptime, it's tired and cliche but still true. also: what you put in your body will definitely be apparent in your energy levels, have you noticed a difference? will you retain some of this regimen past the game of ''till the end of january''?

Logo of Spencer Fry Spencer Fry about 6 months ago

Karen: You're definitely right that ''what you put in your body will definitely be apparent in your energy levels.'' I'm definitely going to continue to take it easy with alcohol and with my diet of foods. Both have drastically improved my energy levels.

Wing Yan about 4 months ago

Try some chamomile tea for calm :)

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